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What are your systems? 

 

It has been said that each system is perfect for what it gives you. Perfect. What systems do you have in place in your life and what are they giving you? What are they not giving you? How do your systems impact how you show up vs. how you wish to show up? What decisions are you making or not making that are impacting your day-to-day and how are these decisions helping you move closer to or further away from the person you wish to be? 

 

What life are you choosing?

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How do you experience your days? Are you living life on purpose or are you seeking meaning? Are you interacting with others in a way where you feel connected or do you feel more disconnected than ever? Are you   making choices that improve your mental and physical states or do sub-optimal habits run the show? 

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Life is about facing choices and the accumulation of our choices - yes, especially the small ones, which often create our experiences. Still, many of us choose to remain on autopilot fighting for control in our lives. Instead, we often do not realize that we are choosing to try and control what is uncontrollable. The more we try and control what is uncontrollable, the less control we possess. We become increasingly more reactive than creative. 

 

"Everything is a choice. This is life's greatest truth and its hardest lesson. It is a great truth because it reminds us of our power. Not power over others, but the often untapped power to be ourselves and to live the life we have imagined."  

~ Matthew Kelly

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When we take charge and begin choosing to make our own choices we experience a shift. It is then that the small but smart choices we consistently make begin to make all the difference. 

 

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Who are you becoming?

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In his book, Atomic Habits, James Clearly powerfully states, "Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become." Often, we are so focused on the outcome, with our eyes locked on whatever target we have selected, that we fail to see the overall impact of our choices. We are what we repeatedly do. The question is, who we are, is it who we want to be?

 

Many of us wish for some kind of change in our fundamentals: how we sleep, how we eat, how we move, our weight, and our stress. Some of us wish for change in our relationships: at home, at work, with friends. We wish to see opportunities instead of problems, to create our experiences instead of react to our circumstances. Many of us say "I can't" when what we really mean is "I won't". We dream but we choose not to do.

 

It has been said that one definition of Hell is that on our last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become. Still, as we continue to think there is always more time, many of us wait to create a life we are truly proud of, where we show up as our best in service to ourselves, our families, our communities, and the world. 

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Abraham Maslow said that we have two main choices in life, "One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again." 

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"The secret of getting ahead is getting started."

~ Mark Twain